The Charity Cancervive has been set up to offer help from personal experience for family, friends and colleagues of cancer patients.
This site is for anyone affected by cancer, whether a patient or carer. It is designed to provide a place for people to talk about how cancer has changed their lives and to provide support for them.
Hi everyone, I have been told by several people who have been diagnosed with cancer, that often friends react unexpectedly to their diagnosis. Some are very supportive, but others tend to run away or become very uncomunicative. I do say to people, dont be too hard on your friends. For when a close friend is diagnosed with cancer, it can be very difficult to figure out what to say, and a lot of people just dont know how to react, especially if the prognosis is not good. I have heard it said, that it's times like this when we find out who our real friends are, and sometime they can be someone we really didnt expect to be there for us. At the end of the day the cancer patient needs all the love, help, and support that family and friends can provide, and it does help enormously in our fight against this evil disease. This just reinforces what I often say, cancer doesnt just affect the patient, it affects everyone who knows them too. Take care everyone, Rainbow.
I was told the exact same thing after my diagnosis which I really didn't believe but yes, some people had problems with it, some were undoubtedly "sickness tourists" and 1 even told me I'd given her mental health problems!!! mad! Friends need to and will take their steer from you and your reaction as they often don't know what to say or do - once mine realised I was the same person, we all relaxed! Suffice to say that now I'm out the other side, I have a fabulous set of supportive friends who I have the benefit of KNOWING will always be there for me...